March 30, 2024
- I have a sense of covering the fragility of interpersonal relationships with the momentum of life, but there is always a fear of becoming helpless if I lose speed for some reason.
- (While writing, I started to feel that there is a cognitive distortion in thinking that I am fragile and can cover it with momentum.)
- From the perspective of the “fragility” of human relationships, I believe that relationships based solely on roles are fragile. (kawahiii)
- Networks are relatively fragile, while friendships are not so fragile (rather, they are anti-fragile). (kawahiii)
- Antifragility
- Indeed. (tkgshn)
April 25, 2024
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For about a year, I have been carrying this fragility/loneliness, and I realized that not being part of a community that regularly gathers (especially in the United States) might be the cause.
- Well, when I start writing it down, it seems obvious that being part of a community that meets regularly is important.
- It took me a year to realize this.
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Communities where you have the opportunity to regularly meet people without having to actively invite or be invited by others are crucial.
- Without that, maintaining relationships requires a lot of effort.
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I have been feeling the vulnerability of potentially falling into loneliness if I don’t actively maintain social interactions for the past year.
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When I have irregular plans and spend time in unusual circumstances, I don’t feel lonely, but I have been feeling lonely in the absence of any daily routine.
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Increasing the proportion of unusual experiences as an approach to resolve this situation doesn’t seem very effective; it seems better to improve daily social interactions.
- I totally agree with this. (kawahiii)
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Oh, I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently, so I want to talk about it when we meet. (fuka)
- 👍 (blu3mo)
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I’m thinking the same thing because I graduated from high school and haven’t talked to any of my high school friends since then. (meow)
- Loneliness drives people crazy, so it seems important to create an environment where that doesn’t happen (self-admonishment). (blu3mo)
- I’ve only been focused on IB and haven’t prepared for the university entrance exams, so I’m thinking of trying a prep school. (meow)