• “It’s more accurate to focus on the result, which is ‘getting one’s thoughts across to many others,’ rather than the action of ‘confidently speaking out loud.‘”

  • Assumptions:

  • Causes:

    • In the case of (blu3mo), it feels like this has resulted from the aftermath of Impostor Syndrome.
    • Not being accustomed to confidently speaking out loud, there is a lack of understanding on how to deal with the gaze of others.
    • Additionally, the culture of humility in Japan may also be influencing to some extent.
  • Why this is not good:

  • The solution to this problem can be broadly divided into two categories:

    • (As long as one of the trade-offs is eliminated)
    • Approach 1: Eliminate the mental resistance.
      • It is ultimately unclear how to do this.
      • It seems that it just requires getting used to it (as I feel that not being accustomed to it is the root cause).
    • Approach 2: Eliminate the disadvantages of not speaking out confidently.
      • In this regard, I feel that I have somewhat achieved it by starting to communicate information in a confident manner like It’s Okay to Look on Scrapbox.
        • However, there are still limitations to passive information sharing on Scrapbox.
      • It would be good to create a system where it seems like I am passively sharing information, but in reality, I am speaking out more confidently.
        • There is no real need to be passive; maintaining a certain level of Believability is sufficient.
  • Is there really a need to solve this problem?

    • I am not particularly troubled by it at the moment, and I am able to obtain opportunities, information, and approval to a satisfactory extent.
    • The strong awareness of this issue arises when comparing oneself to those who confidently speak out loud, which I think is a feeling close to envy towards those who seem to benefit more than oneself.
    • Rather, I feel that this kind of awareness of the issue is creating worries and making me unhappy.
  • Well, maybe there is no need to consciously try to solve this problem.

    • Moderate Ambition and Resignation
    • If Approach 1 can be resolved through familiarity, it seems like it will be achieved over time without even realizing it.
      • So, if it is achieved, it’s lucky; if not, it’s not a big deal to maintain a relaxed mindset.
    • Approach 2, on the other hand, is interesting as a topic for thought, regardless of whether it is related to my own issues.
      • So, if any ideas for a product to solve it come to mind, it’s lucky to think about it with a relaxed mindset.
  • Conclusion reached 🙌🙌

    • Bluemo (@blu3mo)

    • Feeling happy as if a long-standing concern has been resolved (or maybe just for now)

    • https://t.co/zVGyUR8mXW


The following is unorganized notes before sorting:

  • With the tweet above and the method of communication like It’s Okay to Look (Scrapbox), the mental distress has been largely alleviated.
  • However, the unresolved drawbacks of not being able to do it.- So, when I see gatherings of people who confidently speak out and benefit from it, it makes me anxious (even though there is no mental distress).
  • Ultimately, I think about how easy or difficult it is to feel bothered by interacting with others.
  • Without changing my way of living, I want to think of ways to minimize this disadvantage.
    • It would be great if SNS platforms in the format of It’s Okay to Look became standard (?)
      • This is unlikely since those who want to be seen are definitely more attractive.

Related

  • Impostor Syndrome

  • Self-Esteem

  • /philosophy-cafe/Is it good to have self-esteem

  • An environment where people who can confidently communicate benefit

  • I’m not good at interfering with others when I’m not sure if I’m right

  • /tkgshn/Let’s make it OSS

  • Pride

  • Not seeing oneself as the protagonist

  • Phrases of the mind

    • I made a note thinking that some phrase related to “mind” might be relevant, but I forgot what it was.
    • I feel like it’s something about groveling.
  • In the end, am I just afraid of negative evaluations from others?

    • Even if I receive negative evaluations, it doesn’t make me sad since my self-evaluation is already low.
    • Is it that my self-evaluation is high, but I lack confidence in that evaluation?
  • Because I haven’t felt the benefits of speaking out so much, do the disadvantages/fears seem bigger?

    • I’ve recently thought that there are good things when communicating properly with people, so I am conscious of that.
  • I feel like I have rough generalizations and assumptions about “I am this kind of person.”

    • I want to avoid such things.
  • I want to increase the number of close friends.

    • It’s not that I dislike interacting with people.
    • However, how would it be if I wanted to have ten thousand followers?
  • If self-evaluation and self-esteem are high, do you feel anxious not knowing if it’s correct?

  • I want to think using Keicho.

  • Write down the phenomena and consider the general reasons for them.

    • I was able to create scrapbox-duplicator, but I didn’t really think about promoting it to a large audience.
      • I didn’t imagine the benefits, but there were actually good things.
      • Conversely, (since Bluemo) can move his hands, if I don’t share information, I think others will take advantage (tkgshn).
        • [/tkgshn/Hiding information is a risk Memo - fladdict.net#6056e64b09c5f20000ac0480](https://scrapbox.io/tkgshn/情報を隠すことはリスク メモ - fladdict.net#6056e64b09c5f20000ac0480)
        • For example, scrapbox-duplicator could be interpreted as (tkgshn) snatching profits.
          • In the culture of code, there may not be a culture of including licenses or credits (such as Bluemo’s ID) for other creative works.
          • How do you feel about the case where you think “I will lose out if I don’t put myself out there” at that time? (tkgshn)
    • I’m not good at showing off awards.
      • This might be specific to awards.
    • I feel resistance to writing “Unto2020” in my Twitter profile.
      • I understand. It feels like it’s embarrassing to showcase that.
      • But I don’t think it’s just that I want to hide it; there are conflicting feelings.

I’ve always wanted to be humble, but in the end, it was just that I didn’t want to be seen as arrogant… Probably, being able to listen to others’ opinions immediately even while being a bit conceited is just right. @carpediem_530 May 6, 2021- I feel like the proficiency in Turn-Based Communication is a separate issue. - The cause may be related though.

#myself